I spend a huge chunk of my spare time searching for information that is going to improve my life. I’m the dream customer for any self-development guru because I want to believe – the strange things is I’m not sure if any of this material has ever led to a substantial improvement in my life.
The tide always comes back –these were the words my first proper girlfriend said as part of her ‘you’re fired’ speech. I didn’t get much comfort from this nugget of wisdom at age sixteen, but this truth has become like a rock I cling onto when times are hard. The tide always does come back and sometimes the best we can do is just hang in there until it does.
I’ve had days when my fear of failure has been so intense that I could barely look at my wife and son – it happened as recently as yesterday. There have been so many times when I’ve felt sick with worry that my freelance business would fail – I’m not talking metaphorically here, I mean the type of sick where you have your head in the toilet. .
I gave up a secure job to become a full-time freelance writer four years ago. This decision felt so right at the time, but if I’d known how tough it would be, I probably wouldn’t have been so eager to make the leap.
I’m still passionate about my career, and I don’t even mind the struggle – it’s just the fear the struggle might be in vain that keeps me awake at night.
The fact that we are here at all is magical – the whole universe is one huge mystery. I try to keep an open mind when it comes to supernatural claims. I remind myself that many of the things we take for grated today would once have been viewed as supernatural – could you image describing Wi-Fi to somebody from the nineteenth century?
The problem with entitlement thinking is it can be such a huge drain on my motivation. If I believe I’m owed something, I’m not going to want to work very hard to obtain it – it seems unfair to expect me to work hard for something that is already rightly mine.
I’ve faced the threat of financial meltdown more than once. I work as a freelance writer, and there have been numerous occasions when the projects have just dried up. It’s scary, and it would be so easy for me to fall into depression at these times – something I’ve done in the past. Here are six things that help me survive these difficult periods:
Visualization is a powerful technique for increasing and maintaining motivation. I’ve created my own audio guided meditation. It’s very easy to do, and it can be a great tool to help you stay on track to achieve your goals.
Life is a messy business – even when I give 100 per cent, there are still going to be days when I feel lost and hopeless. If you want to radically improve your life, you should expect plenty of messiness in your future too.